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MK Survey question 3:  What is your least favorite thing about being an MK?

Summary: 18+ years of constant readjustments; Where do I fit in??

 

Being away from extended family

Andrew Visser

31

France

all the good-byes we have to say to family and friends

Jill (Peters) Watkins

30

São Paulo, Brazil

The traveling on furlough

Michael Reeves

48

Alaska

My dad is out of the country a lot.

Rachel Kerr

20

Bibles International

Having to always be the “example” and the volunteer for various Sunday School and youth activities.  There were no other Christian, born-again, children that I grew up with.  I was always the outsider in that respect.  This, however, did not hamper my social life.  I was still accepted and had many close friends that were Finnish.  I had no American friends nor did I have any English-speaking friends.  I was completely bi-lingual and unless I told my friends that I was an American citizen they would never have known.  I was somewhat of a novelty and I had to explain that I was a daughter of an American missionary family which wasn’t always easy because there are no other missionaries in Finland (“only Africa, right?!”.   

Karin Ruhkala Sicoli

32

Finland

Moving so often, not being able to go to a regular school and the lack of friendships

Rebecca Smith

15

Londrina, Parana-

Brazil

Moving and going to a dif church each Sunday on furlough

the lack of friends(we are at a new work)

Rachel Smith

16

Londrina, Brazil

Saying good bye like every 4 years then saying goodbye again after a year.

Abigail Jewell

16

Sorocaba, Sao Paulo, Brazil

Socially isolated and being out of it when we came home on furlough

Mark Seymour

53

Chad, Africa

Never really fitting in anywhere we went. When we were in Italy I was the American. When we were

on furlough I was the Italian kid!

Joshua Whitman

27

Italy

My least favorite thing was being away from our family.  We pretty much had to grow up without grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.  This was a very big sacrifice.

Jon Price

31

USA (Indiana)

Living outside your native land and associated mild persecution for being American, Christian.

Daniel Ruhkala

31

Finland

Feeling out of place and away from home. Lack of strong Christian friends.

Clinton Ellis

17

Germany

Little old ladies in supporting churches exclaiming (with or without a pinch in the cheek) on how much I have grown since the last time she saw me. (Mom, who is this lady???).

Transferring to a US school for furlough - especially after Grade school.

David Boyd

49

The Netherlands

Never fitting in.  In Australia, I was looked on as “different” because I was thought of as American.  In America, I was “different” because I was from Australia.  Although I liked the cross-cultural upbringing that being an MK gave me, I often felt like I was not really part of either culture—neither fully Australian, nor fully American.  Particularly in my teenage years (the age when everyone is so concerned about fitting in), I often felt like a misfit.

Anna Beth Wivell

25

Australia

What I struggled with more as an mk was not being able to spend as much time with my parents as I wanted to because they were always involved in ministry.

Sarah Darling

25

Venezuela

I’m on a pedestal, I can’t get mad or have family problems, if I do anything that is wrong, people start talking.

Hannah Stilwell

16

Peru

Watching people treat my parents badly.

Holly Syroteuk

20

Canada

There always seemed to be an expectation by the churches and individuals that the MK should be has holy and spiritually developed as the missionary. It always seemed like a lot of pressure.

Daniel Darling

26

Venezuela

-lack of stability, difficulty to make and keep long-term relationships due to frequent life change

Lisa (Brammer) Bolton

27

Taiwan/New Zealand

not seeming to fit in with kids your own age in your supporting churches

Leah Ronk

20

Brazil

As I mentioned above, I really missed having extended family around. We had close friends that we called Aunt, Uncle or cousins, but we knew they weren’t.  And, I also felt just a bit different from the Puerto Ricans like I didn’t quite belong.

Michelle (Stinedurf) Williams

36

Puerto Rico

Interesting diseases and long car drives on furlough.

Philip Harris

37

C.A.R.

 

Not having had close High School friends as I moved 3 times in the 4 years.

Joy Spieth

62

Brazil

 

Not many friends

Christopher Armstrong

14

Russia/Siberia

My biggest challenge is all the traveling during furlough.

Corey Armstrong

12

Russia/Siberia

 

Learning a second language

Caleb Armstrong

10

Russia/Siberia

I don’t like riding in the car all day.

Coleton Armstrong

6

Russia/Siberia

 

Doing home school in the car.  Finding good Christian friends (especially during my teen years).

Lisa (Richter) Armstrong

35

Alaska (as MK)

Going on furlough. Although I enjoyed all the travel, I always felt like a fish out of water--especially in my youth group and at school.

Mark Swedberg

43

Brazil

Returning to the states every 3 – 5 years and trying to figure out the culture here in the USA and trying to find friends all over again.

Victoria Lynn (Elmer) Meerman

31

C.A.R.

My least favorite AND biggest challenge was furlough.  Never felt like I "fit in" with the US people, didn't like leaving my friends in Brazil, didn't really like anything about the US.

Darlene (Reiner) Smith

54

Brazil

The expectation to be different. Sometimes, I really did just want to fit in with the crowd. At the same time I also realize that--though at the time I didn't enjoy those feelings--it was a way in which God was protecting me from the bad influences.

The ironic thing was that when I went to college I left Holland with the expectation of fitting in with the other Christians at college... I quickly found out that I didn't really fit in there either (I was caught between two cultures).

Daniel Boyd

26

The Netherlands

Time spent away from parents to go to school in another city.

Bill Griffin Jr.

58

Brazil

The difficulty of adjusting and not feeling like you fit in when you return to the U.S.

Tim Lankford

38

Manaus, Brazil

When people do not recognize you when we go into a church for a meeting, people ask if I play the piano as good as my dad even though I can not.

Karis Giegerich

15

No. America

Travel, calling on us to stand up during a service.